And these macho, masculine men are the reason men run the risk of developing testosterone poisoning.
There are heroes who define what it means to be masculine. With muscles, girls as prizes to win at the end of the quest, and fast cars. These are the men of the ‘80s, and I’m surprised my mother didn’t mention the A-Team (though, to be fair, I said “heroes” and not “guys”).
One of the main problems of these men is that, because they are the definition of masculinity, they tell males how to and how to not behave. They reinforce the stereotype of Heterosexual Male in a Quest, where the prize at the end is A Fair Maiden.
There is some great literature out there which deconstruct this stereotype, such as Rick Riordan’s Heroes of Olympus and Magnus Chase, or Cassandra Clare’s Shadowhunter Chronicles. And yes, I do realise I’m naming young adult and teen fiction. But that’s where this awesomeness lies.
And this is bad for current adults.
But in terms of younger writers and readers, it teaches that it’s okay to not have muscles. It teaches that it’s okay to not be heterosexual or to fit the gender binary.
Because the world is full of shades of grey and blurred lines. Your work should reflect this.
Firstly, I’d suggest you “ask” your characters who they are as a person.
Then, you ask yourself why you’re including this level of masculinity in the story. Because “diversity” isn’t good enough. Readers can tell when something’s just been added in for the sake of adding it in.
Characters don’t need to be perfect. Perfect is an ideal. It’s poison, it rots society. Your characters have flaws which make them relatable and likeable. Your flaws are what makes a character human (if they are, in fact, human).
Maybe your overly masculine hero has a sexual dysfunction he’s hiding. Or a tiny penis. Because someone with those muscles cannot be a perfect human. A perfect human is impossible to achieve unless you’re a saint.
No, don’t write about a saint. What are you, a Christian author from the Late Medieval Period?
I’m tempted to include a bit about the science of testosterone poisoning, you know, like I did about what drinking blood does to humans? But then I decided against it. Because I’m ranting about muscles and low-key bitching about romance novels.
One blog post I read a while ago said you shouldn’t think about the gender of your narrator as a deciding factor for writing it. Or that it should play a part, at all, in deciding who does what, when, and why.
Because gender should not be a factor in the actions of your characters.
This is called toxic masculinity. It is where society says a man is strong, emotionless, and earns all the money. He drinks beer and likes violent sports. He drives fast cars and treats women like prized possessions.
Insert the song, “You Don’t Own Me”.
Now, I don’t know about you, but that generalisation doesn’t apply to every man on the planet. And as such, it shouldn’t apply to every character who was born with certain genitalia.
Where there’s a character, there’s a cliché and a stock character. The Manly Man and the Sensitive Guy. There’s the Straight Gay and the Raging Gay. There’s a character trope for everything, and whether or not it’s written well depends on how the author handles the characterisation.
I suppose the female equivalent for this is the Femme Fatale, the sultry woman who seduces men for whatever reason. Dresses in revealing dresses and has bright red lipstick. She’s usually the bad guy, or knows the rather masculine bad guy, or works for the bad guy. James Bond probably slept with her at some point.
Find out more about how creating overly masculine heroes affect your stories. Click To TweetThis is going back to the eighties and the use of women as props. We should be past this; our masculine male characters should deal with their emotions like a mentally stable person. Our female leads should treat men as people and not eye candy.
This is about equality and respect.
Women are more than seductresses and prizes to be won. Women are more than empty vessels for the reader to squeeze into who react to the story at large. We should reflect this in the books we read and write.
Men are more than action heroes and lone rangers. Men are more than shallow and vaguely abusive love interests for the female lead to idealise. We should reflect this in the books we read and write.
As I mentioned in my article on villains, every character has a goal and motive.
Every character.
Every character must have a purpose for being in your story. And I do mean beyond “but my lead needs a love interest.” What actual role does your character have in the story?
How does your love interest move the plot forward?
Your love interest needs a real reason for your inclusion of them in the story. Are they also the mentor? The sidekick? Princess Leia was, I argue, the mentor. Han Solo was the contagonist. Fight me on this.
Well, I’ll give the short and sweet answer to that question. Mills and Boons is not a good idea if you want diversity. But anyway: